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Press J to jump to the feed. So I shared this Twitlonger post with another guy friend of mine and he said I should post dating in los angeles reddit here. I am accepting that this could be downvoted to hell and that’s fine.

But this is my legitimate honest truth, and maybe just maybe it resonates with some guys out there that are feeling lost, or overwhelmed, or just awkward with online dating. I originally came to online dating because Los Angeles is a busy city, I’m constantly working and it seemed the most convenient way to go about it. So I joined OKCupid and Tinder in the hopes of finding someone legitimate to establish a relationship with but over time I think I’ve just become more and more cynical with the whole ordeal. I found my last girlfriend on OKCupid, and we were together for over a year. I guess I held out the hope that history might repeat itself and I would luck out and find someone amazing again and it didn’t really happen like that.

Well I’ve learned a lot about myself and met a lot of people that were just completely wrong for me. In the process of that I think I lost the passion to expose someone to the opportunity to discover the friendly and wonderful things about me. Instead I started developing an alternate version of myself that seemed to only exist on OKCupid and Tinder or more specifically, just when talking to women in general. The expressive, mildly shy but incredibly dorky person that is me was replaced by an increasingly cynical and alarmingly arrogant douchebag who found himself most comfortable in being callous, cold, and walled off to any idea of real emotional output.

More simply put I was a fucking asshole. Something like that didn’t happen overnight to be certain, and there were definitely a myriad of reasons that could possibly explain my descent into dating madness but the most simple reason was probably just a bunch of shitty dates. I had met probably over 50 girls on the site in the last year alone and only one of them manage to stir a flame in my heart. But for sure I have been in some incredibly weird and horrible situations because of online dating. And these things happen with an increased frequency that has begun to both alarm me, and cause me to lose my faith that people aren’t completely losing their minds when they talk to other members of the opposite sex.